Loved reading this. Thank you. As a young (39) post chemically and the surgically induced menopausal woman who can't tale HRT I'm with you in wanting to hear more about it.
Sending love, Jo. I hear you. I hope you are feeling better soon. And I hope there is help for your daughter that is much closer and more helpful than the options you've mentioned. As a post-menopausal woman, I'm amazed at the lack of information and interest in this phase of life. I also really don't think you are petty! Concerned, interested, frustrated maybe. ;) Wishing the best and so glad you wrote this and shared your voice.
I am so sorry to hear of your troubles with the medical messes it seems both your country and mine (USA) are facing. Not sure who is worse but seems they are competing for worse health care in the world. It is alarming and frightening. Post menopausal here. I used Black Cohosh to get me through the worst of it. So glad to have that behind me. Hold strong it will pass. Sending lots of good thoughts that you can somehow override the stupidity of the system and get your daughter in!
No, Jo, you’re not being petty at all--refreshingly honest more like. I’m so sorry for what you’re going through with your daughter and The System. As far as HRT, well, here’s one woman who can’t take it. Given the peculiarities of my body and mind, I didn’t even try it. Some herbs and flower essences have helped, but there was also a very long period of constant heat, literal screaming, and barely holding myself together. If I heard one more well-meaning person (celeb or otherwise) gush about the wonders of HRT (to my overheated mind, with the subtext of ‘just take it and stop bothering everyone and get back to the grind’), someone was going to get punched in the face. Fortunately though I’m not post-menopausal yet, my symptoms have greatly subsided and most of the time, I’m as close to normal as I’ll ever get. As ever thanks for reminding me I’m not so alone after all!
Definitely feeling you on all of this. Just had an ADHD referral for the younger childebeest declined by the CAMHS team local to our area with no feedback as to why (or at least none that we could discern in the letter), with advice to pursue a referral to Paediatrics instead, with the same end in view, i.e. an ADHD diagnosis. This, after several months working with her school to get even to the referral stage, because 'she's doing so well'. Um, masking, anyone?!
It seems that one has to be incredibly resilient to get anywhere within the system these days, and, while it's shitty for me and I find it frustrating, like you my life is mostly good, and I have the energy and the determination to persist. The thing that bothers me is all the people who don't, but who so very desperately need the help. It's like some horrendous initiation test, and that has no place in access to healthcare. And every day I ask myself whether school is the right place for my girls, and what I could do differently, and every day I can't believe that the things that were wrong with school when I went (I'm 44) are still wrong now, and, in lots of ways, more wrong, in fact. Like, WTAF.
Loving all of this. Had cancer required surgically induced menopause at age 28. Conventional pregnant mares urine aka Premarin HRT made me suicidal and progesterone made me likely to turn up on a most wanted poster at the post office.
Fortunately after three years of unbearable yet medically ignored hot flashes and other estrogen dependent symptoms for a doc who used what's now called bio-mimicking estrogen injections.
Calling out the total ignoring of women's healthcare issues across our life span is not at all petty.
Neither is calling out the inequalities of your and my (USA) country’s dystopian health care delivery system.
Anyway, it helps me to know that I'm not alone with my dismay. Thanks! harpingJanet
Loved reading this. Thank you. As a young (39) post chemically and the surgically induced menopausal woman who can't tale HRT I'm with you in wanting to hear more about it.
Sending love, Jo. I hear you. I hope you are feeling better soon. And I hope there is help for your daughter that is much closer and more helpful than the options you've mentioned. As a post-menopausal woman, I'm amazed at the lack of information and interest in this phase of life. I also really don't think you are petty! Concerned, interested, frustrated maybe. ;) Wishing the best and so glad you wrote this and shared your voice.
I am so sorry to hear of your troubles with the medical messes it seems both your country and mine (USA) are facing. Not sure who is worse but seems they are competing for worse health care in the world. It is alarming and frightening. Post menopausal here. I used Black Cohosh to get me through the worst of it. So glad to have that behind me. Hold strong it will pass. Sending lots of good thoughts that you can somehow override the stupidity of the system and get your daughter in!
Love you x
No, Jo, you’re not being petty at all--refreshingly honest more like. I’m so sorry for what you’re going through with your daughter and The System. As far as HRT, well, here’s one woman who can’t take it. Given the peculiarities of my body and mind, I didn’t even try it. Some herbs and flower essences have helped, but there was also a very long period of constant heat, literal screaming, and barely holding myself together. If I heard one more well-meaning person (celeb or otherwise) gush about the wonders of HRT (to my overheated mind, with the subtext of ‘just take it and stop bothering everyone and get back to the grind’), someone was going to get punched in the face. Fortunately though I’m not post-menopausal yet, my symptoms have greatly subsided and most of the time, I’m as close to normal as I’ll ever get. As ever thanks for reminding me I’m not so alone after all!
Definitely feeling you on all of this. Just had an ADHD referral for the younger childebeest declined by the CAMHS team local to our area with no feedback as to why (or at least none that we could discern in the letter), with advice to pursue a referral to Paediatrics instead, with the same end in view, i.e. an ADHD diagnosis. This, after several months working with her school to get even to the referral stage, because 'she's doing so well'. Um, masking, anyone?!
It seems that one has to be incredibly resilient to get anywhere within the system these days, and, while it's shitty for me and I find it frustrating, like you my life is mostly good, and I have the energy and the determination to persist. The thing that bothers me is all the people who don't, but who so very desperately need the help. It's like some horrendous initiation test, and that has no place in access to healthcare. And every day I ask myself whether school is the right place for my girls, and what I could do differently, and every day I can't believe that the things that were wrong with school when I went (I'm 44) are still wrong now, and, in lots of ways, more wrong, in fact. Like, WTAF.
I'll stop now...!
Thank you for sharing where you are. All of it. No apologies. It’s about time people show up as they are. 👍😜🙋♀️
Loving all of this. Had cancer required surgically induced menopause at age 28. Conventional pregnant mares urine aka Premarin HRT made me suicidal and progesterone made me likely to turn up on a most wanted poster at the post office.
Fortunately after three years of unbearable yet medically ignored hot flashes and other estrogen dependent symptoms for a doc who used what's now called bio-mimicking estrogen injections.
Calling out the total ignoring of women's healthcare issues across our life span is not at all petty.
Neither is calling out the inequalities of your and my (USA) country’s dystopian health care delivery system.
Anyway, it helps me to know that I'm not alone with my dismay. Thanks! harpingJanet